hello holiday readers.
i am only on the blog this afternoon because i saw a friend yesterday evening and i realized that she was not feeling quite well because of some various family issues and concerns. i know that we cannot all be bright and chipper all of the time, and whether or not she knows it, she is a very beautiful person on so many levels and she always is warm and inviting and makes me smile and laugh and giggle. mostly, she puts me at ease.
i thought i would dedicate a legal like post to her today and to those of you who finished final exams about a week ago. it can be rather tough getting through a semester of law school, without freaking out about how well you did on exams. let's see what we can do to ease all of our worries. just a little bit.
b.
be as strong as you can for as long as you can, and weak whenever you feel that the moment is upon you. if your final examinations left you speechless, then that is okay, because they are, literally, behind you. you cannot do anything about what you wrote, or did not write, or how they are going to turn out. if your life outside of school is moving up and down, and up and down, and back up again, know that you do not have control over most situations. some things you will feel more than others. some days you will be a stalwart; other days you will cry like a newborn. you owe no one an explanation for what you are doing on any given day. i give you permission to feel it or not feel it whenever the need arises.
r.
remember, you are only a human being and as such you can honor yourself with the knowledge that you cannot be at an "A" all of the time. if that was the case, there would be no other grades to dish out to the other people in the classroom. miguel ruiz says, "do your best, but remember that your best will vary from circumstance to circumstance, depending on where you are in your life." give yourself the day where some part of it is an "A," another part is a "b," a segment of it, a "c" and so on. the entire holiday does not have to be all bells and whistles, quiet, peace and reflection can also be on the agenda, too.
e.
everything is not for everybody to know. when grades come back, you do not have to run around and tell everyone everything about your class grades. be discrete. a little discretion goes a long way. it will give you time to think about your grades, whether you want to discuss exams with the professor and how you want to approach the new semester. not related to law school, but find some people who are or have experienced what you are going through and meet with them as often as you can, even if it is just to throw down a tear or two. you are not alone. i can't tell you how many times i wondered if i was going through something that no one else was experiencing, just to learn that i not only was not in something heavy, but that others were going through matters much worse than mine.
n.
no is an option. you can decide that you do not want to pile on too many classes, or jobs, or seminars, or or anything that you normally do too much of in a semester. who said that you have to keep up with other people in the school. uh, no one, I don't think!?!? you don't owe anyone an explanation for saying no, either. no is the answer that many people need to hear in order for them to do something without your help. no, as it relates to personal strife, allows you to regroup, and rebuild, and regenerate, not slowly, but "noly." slow it down. people will find out a way to do other things until you are back in the saddle. say no now to others, so that when you are ready for action again, then your yes, like your no, will mean yes!
d.
don't give up on yourself, but do understand that others may give up on you. we are all fighting our own fight in this life, whether it is law school, medical school, accounting, engineering, architecture, nursing, clerical, or unemployed, underemployed. it don't matter. i realize that so many of us (me, too) seek a little help (sometimes, it is so little) from someone, and we don't always get just the little help that we desire. well, at that time you have to find some other medium or person or guidance from "another." same with classes and studying and getting back into the saddle in january. it may take you more time to catch up with things because of the fight you are having with yourself (start off well, then slack off; start off well, then slack off). keep doing that start slack routine. eventually start will smother slack, and your will, at that time, can take over. others do mean well, but are crowded with their own lives and own inner discussions. we cannot force 'em to help us. we have to talk ourselves through it (for ourselves).
a.
almost, always there is another way to look at the problem or concern. your mind does not always want to go there. you cannot imagine that you will ever get employed with a "d" on your transcript from civil procedure. but you will. you blew the last question in contracts, and you may have to take the class over because you did not pass. you may not be able to enroll in school because of poor grades, or some other reason - health, money, health (again). what can i do once i know the writing on the wall. do i just stare at the wall, or do i look at another passage or entrance to a new life? don't worry about it happening over night, 'cause that is not going to happen. i guarantee you that one thing. i wouldn't even ask you to consider that. ever. it seems like you have been looking at that wall forever. keep looking at it. it will (very slowly) start to change a little at a time.
you have something to offer this world. you are going to have to figure it out. it would be nice if someone could press a button and tell you exactly what it is. you are more than likely gonna have to figure it out by yourself. alone. and that is okay, too. like everything else, it is a process.
for b.r.e.n.d.a. /bff and cleo. take what you can get & learn from the holiday season.
prof. smith
i am only on the blog this afternoon because i saw a friend yesterday evening and i realized that she was not feeling quite well because of some various family issues and concerns. i know that we cannot all be bright and chipper all of the time, and whether or not she knows it, she is a very beautiful person on so many levels and she always is warm and inviting and makes me smile and laugh and giggle. mostly, she puts me at ease.
i thought i would dedicate a legal like post to her today and to those of you who finished final exams about a week ago. it can be rather tough getting through a semester of law school, without freaking out about how well you did on exams. let's see what we can do to ease all of our worries. just a little bit.
b.
be as strong as you can for as long as you can, and weak whenever you feel that the moment is upon you. if your final examinations left you speechless, then that is okay, because they are, literally, behind you. you cannot do anything about what you wrote, or did not write, or how they are going to turn out. if your life outside of school is moving up and down, and up and down, and back up again, know that you do not have control over most situations. some things you will feel more than others. some days you will be a stalwart; other days you will cry like a newborn. you owe no one an explanation for what you are doing on any given day. i give you permission to feel it or not feel it whenever the need arises.
r.
remember, you are only a human being and as such you can honor yourself with the knowledge that you cannot be at an "A" all of the time. if that was the case, there would be no other grades to dish out to the other people in the classroom. miguel ruiz says, "do your best, but remember that your best will vary from circumstance to circumstance, depending on where you are in your life." give yourself the day where some part of it is an "A," another part is a "b," a segment of it, a "c" and so on. the entire holiday does not have to be all bells and whistles, quiet, peace and reflection can also be on the agenda, too.
e.
everything is not for everybody to know. when grades come back, you do not have to run around and tell everyone everything about your class grades. be discrete. a little discretion goes a long way. it will give you time to think about your grades, whether you want to discuss exams with the professor and how you want to approach the new semester. not related to law school, but find some people who are or have experienced what you are going through and meet with them as often as you can, even if it is just to throw down a tear or two. you are not alone. i can't tell you how many times i wondered if i was going through something that no one else was experiencing, just to learn that i not only was not in something heavy, but that others were going through matters much worse than mine.
n.
no is an option. you can decide that you do not want to pile on too many classes, or jobs, or seminars, or or anything that you normally do too much of in a semester. who said that you have to keep up with other people in the school. uh, no one, I don't think!?!? you don't owe anyone an explanation for saying no, either. no is the answer that many people need to hear in order for them to do something without your help. no, as it relates to personal strife, allows you to regroup, and rebuild, and regenerate, not slowly, but "noly." slow it down. people will find out a way to do other things until you are back in the saddle. say no now to others, so that when you are ready for action again, then your yes, like your no, will mean yes!
d.
don't give up on yourself, but do understand that others may give up on you. we are all fighting our own fight in this life, whether it is law school, medical school, accounting, engineering, architecture, nursing, clerical, or unemployed, underemployed. it don't matter. i realize that so many of us (me, too) seek a little help (sometimes, it is so little) from someone, and we don't always get just the little help that we desire. well, at that time you have to find some other medium or person or guidance from "another." same with classes and studying and getting back into the saddle in january. it may take you more time to catch up with things because of the fight you are having with yourself (start off well, then slack off; start off well, then slack off). keep doing that start slack routine. eventually start will smother slack, and your will, at that time, can take over. others do mean well, but are crowded with their own lives and own inner discussions. we cannot force 'em to help us. we have to talk ourselves through it (for ourselves).
a.
almost, always there is another way to look at the problem or concern. your mind does not always want to go there. you cannot imagine that you will ever get employed with a "d" on your transcript from civil procedure. but you will. you blew the last question in contracts, and you may have to take the class over because you did not pass. you may not be able to enroll in school because of poor grades, or some other reason - health, money, health (again). what can i do once i know the writing on the wall. do i just stare at the wall, or do i look at another passage or entrance to a new life? don't worry about it happening over night, 'cause that is not going to happen. i guarantee you that one thing. i wouldn't even ask you to consider that. ever. it seems like you have been looking at that wall forever. keep looking at it. it will (very slowly) start to change a little at a time.
you have something to offer this world. you are going to have to figure it out. it would be nice if someone could press a button and tell you exactly what it is. you are more than likely gonna have to figure it out by yourself. alone. and that is okay, too. like everything else, it is a process.
for b.r.e.n.d.a. /bff and cleo. take what you can get & learn from the holiday season.
prof. smith
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